Fascinating piece, Sarah.

However, is it really possible to "be an absolute jerk with your words and attitude and still be kind"?

I don't think so.

Words and language — Attitudes and behavior are fundamental to our perception of the character and essence of other human beings. If those elements are "jerky", kindness cannot come into play.

I also think niceness is not necessarily synonymous with weakness. It is quite possible to be nice and strong.